What is the science behind having a crush

When you're very curious about a topic, that curiosity affects the chemistry of your brain.

I was reasoning about my foregoing crushes, but they just clicked my mind and fade away. I was not that amazed because after all it was just an infatuation. As I was listening to music, I skipped my mind from all this and continued to see my playlist.

Suddenly, my mind tapped me and asked me a peculiar question "Why do we have a crush?". The question stucked me out made me curious to know the science behind having a crush, so I start digging the facts about why do we get attracted to someone.

Crush: The most adoring feeling one can have. People reading this out might have experience this feeling once.

Okay, before breaking out your curiosity behind it, let's see what happens when you start liking someone.

The feeling you feel:

• You feel butterflies in your stomach whenever you see them. 
• You often start blushing whenever your friends tease you.
• You might feel like you are actually going crazy.
• You keep listening the same song again and again.
• Your crush becomes your favorite topic.
• You try to get their attention.
• Stalking and finding out every single detail you could get (Thanks to facebook).

Science behind having a crush:

Our brains are made up of different parts, one of those parts is the limbic part of the brain. This part is responsible for addictions and such because this part of the brain craves dopamine.

What is dopamine?

Dopamine tends to get a bad wrap. Yes it technically what makes us addicted to drugs, tobacco, alcohol etc., but it is actually really important for us and we release this hormone/neurotransmitter throughout the day.

A crush happens in the limbic part of the brain– the same part which gets you addicted to drugs. That's why it is so hard to overcome a crush, as hard as overcoming a drugs addiction.

But, then you may ask the question: why does it happen?

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The Limbic brain, which is the part we share with animals. It’s responsible for basic functions, like your heart beating and breathing in and out.

Getting attracted to a certain person:

In a crowd your eyes get stuck to a particular person. This is because the:

1- Smell- As per the research, the smell of the body make's wonder to your brain. Which makes you fall for him.

2- Voice- Research has found that breathiness is seen as attractive in both males and females. Even if you don’t see a person, you can become strongly attracted to them from just their voice.

3- Genetic Match - Ever heard that married couples look alike? This common joke might have a basis in truth. We’re drawn to things that are familiar to us, because they make us feel more comfortable.

There are numerous factors that shows why we develop attraction to some people and not others.

How to use the Law of Attraction in Daily life

In the new age philosophy, there are many books describing the ways to get what you want with the Law of Attraction. First let’s look at its definition from Wikipedia.

The law of attraction is the name given to the maxim “like attracts like” which in New Thought philosophy is used to sum up the idea that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts a person brings positive or negative experiences into their life. This belief is based upon the idea that people and their thoughts are both made from “pure energy”, and the belief that like energy attracts like energy.

There are many questions that you might want to ask like

1. Does this law really work?
2. If it works can we always end up with what we want?
3. What are the best ways to use this law?

I can’t give a definitive answer to the first question. We all experience the world in different ways and hold different perspectives about things and events in the world. We may even hold the same view about something and express in contradicting language. It is up to you to test the law of attraction in the ways described below and see for yourself.

Most of the times, we think we know exactly what we need to be happy, what we need to get rid of, what needs to happen and what shouldn’t happen. Sometimes we are right and sometimes we are wrong. You can look into your past or study any person’s past and realise that the big jumps in maturity, life satisfaction, gratitude etc. happen when things go drastically wrong and we realise there is more to life than the surface appearances and start enjoying life at a different level. This reminds me of a Dalai Lama’s quote, “Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck”. So answering the second question. No, you won’t always get what you want.

There are two levels of intentions, one held in our mind and one held in Totality’s intelligence (you can replace the word totality with God, Almighty, Life etc.). Totality knows about the whole picture all the time (whole picture meaning the consequences of a result on everyone and everything in the world), whereas we can’t comprehend the entire picture, but there are ways to align ourselves with the totality to ease the manifestation process, bringing joy to our lives and help you be of value to our society at the same time achieving what we want.

Here are ways you can do to use the law of attraction in daily life.

1. Getting into the flow

A lot of emphasis is put on the new age philosophy that we have to think positive thoughts but more importantly we have to focus on what is behind the thoughts, that is your state of being. Are you in a “fulfilled” state or are you in a “needy” state. Needy state is an illusion that thing you desire will buy you happiness. This greatly hampers the manifestation and you would be attached to the outcome and not be able to put in your best efforts. Be in the fulfilled state. Now it can get tricky here, you will now put the fulfilled state into a desirable object. Don’t do that, you just have to keep watching your mind objectively when it acts in needy state and that state will lose its grip. I highly recommend Anthony de Mello’s book “The Way to Love” to go beyond attachments and fear. Also find a meditation path that suits you. This will greatly help you to align your intentions with the totality’s intentions.

2. Do you think you deserve it ?

As we grow up we make mistakes, we accumulate a lot of guilty and we feel we don’t deserve love, success, money etc. Be aware of your mental conditioning, you will realise the patterns that are pulling you down. Drink the nectar of awareness that comes through meditation practices, and the joy will know no bounds. Your fears cease, confidence rises, your state of mind and intentions are of high quality and so are your actions.

3. Focus on what can go right instead of what shouldn’t go wrong

Imagining you are having a big day ahead and your fears arise about what all can go wrong, what people may think about you, what needs to be flawless. Try focusing on what can go right, how awesome the day is going to feel, how small flaws may arise but your positive attitude can overcome the challenges, making the day smooth.

4. The big picture

Your actions in this world have more consequences than we can completely comprehend. What a person generally desires is a thing or a monetary result. This selfish touch may unconsciously lower our energy level. For example, say you want to buy a new house. If you only focus how other people may think about you when you own a new house, how to show off, etc. then it is less likely for the energy to flow and for the house becoming a reality. Instead see the bigger picture and truly feel what the new house can do to the world and you. The number of people who will get employment from constructing the building, the way you are your family will enjoy the new house, imaging the amazing feeling to be in the house, having a good time with friends, neighbours etc.

5. Gratitude

Life supports us in every step we take, during every second of our time. We don’t usually acknowledge for everything that life provides us. Take time each day to thank life for the things you already have. Thank for the positives even in difficult situations. Say you are stuck in terrible traffic, you can be thankful that there is a road, and you are sitting in a vehicle, that the traffic will at least clear slowly etc. This helps you to be in the “fulfilled” state.

Hope you now have a better idea about how the law of attraction works, I would like to end with a small analogy. Say you have a glass of water, the glass has a limitless supply of water, how much ever you remove the water, it gets a magic refill. Now you use the water to quench your thirst and also use it to water your garden. You can choose to water the plants or the weeds in the garden. Your awareness and thoughts are the water. Plants can be compared with the desired outcomes, weeds can be compared to the negative outcomes, negative thoughts, unhappiness, delusions etc. Be careful what you supply your water to. Growing weeds can stunt your plants’ growth. Best results come when you remove the weeds and only water your plants. Sometimes it happens that some plants die even after your best efforts, then focus growing new plants instead of regretting and thus putting more weeds.Happy growing and happy manifesting.

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Beer

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Brandy

I have soothing, warming, and relaxing qualities that can help induce healthy and restful sleep.

Gin

You can jump from the roof to the pool. Trust me I have done this before.

Vodka

"I know I taste like glass cleaner, but I swear that I'm a good time. I know you're life has been a little rough lately, but don't worry: you'll get all of your emotions out tonight!

Wine

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So, why not give a design to your passion. Look for some good ideas and go ink yourself and feel the happiness. 

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Does money buy happiness

There is frequent talk about how much money it takes for someone to truly be happy. Well, every individual has there own thoughts and perspective.

“It’s pretty well known that greater income is associated with greater levels of happiness,” - Jebb

While exploring the relationship between money and happiness, the researchers wanted to explore the relationship between income and sadness. The results may or may not surprise you; it turns out that while money doesn’t make people happy, it definitely can make them less sad. Higher income is associated with less daily sadness but not more daily happiness. When you think about it, it makes sense.

Buy experiences

Money can lend you the opportunity to have memorable experiences. Although you do not need a lot of money to have certain experiences, to travel the world and do so comfortably, significant amounts of money can go a long way. Therefore, spending money on experiences will give you many moments of happiness as well as positive memories to look back on.

One important point to note is that the experiences you pay for should be ones that you genuinely enjoy, not just things that society values. If you hate going to concerts, for example, then splurging to go to a show is not a good use of your money.

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Even if you are an average earner just make a habbit to give a small amount from your earnings. Giving back to others also makes us happier. Sharing your wealth with those who need it can go a far way in others' lives. Being able to see the impact you are making is a warm feeling. Subsequently, wealth gives you a larger opportunity to give to charity and leave an impact that will leave both others and yourself better off.

Help the needy

Another great way to spend money is on people you care about. Helping a sibling, parent or friend through a tough time can be a great feeling. Even being able to throw extra money into a birthday party for your child or a good friend will make you happier.

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